Chromsomes

I would say I know quite a bit about chromosomes but if you asked me to explain everything I know to you, I wouldn't know what to say. I would have a mind-blank. However, I know that I have asked a few family member and few friends to join me on this journey and follow us, as I slowly but surely update a little bit about our lives when ever I get the chance. So here I go... Im going to try and explain chromosomes in the most basic and simple form as I can before I explain Mango's chromosome anomaly (abnormality).

In every human body we have cells. Cells, are what make up our body. If we were to take one cell from our body and place it under a microscope, zoom in really close we would see that so much is happening in just ONE tiny cell. In each cell we have chromosomes. In each chromosomes we have genes. These genes tell our body what to do and how to do things. (So when our child either has a duplication or a deletion in the chromosome, the doctor's tell us how much of it is missing and added. When they tell us this - they are actually telling us which part of the gene in the chromosome that is missing). 

Every person has 23 pairs of chromosomes. One copy of each chromosome from the mother and one from the father.
Mother - In a mother's 'egg' she has one copy of chromosome 1 to chromosome 22, and the 23rd chromosome being the sex chromosome, which would be an 'x' chromosome. 
Father - In a father's 'sperm' there is also only one copy of chromosome 1 to chromosome 22, and the 23rd chromosome being the sex chromosome. The sex chromosome from the father can either be an 'x'(female) or 'y'(male) chromosome. In saying this, the sex of the baby is determined from the father.

This is what two pairs of chromosomes look like (in a cartoon kinda way): 

Example

Asking yourself what your looking at? I asked myself the same thing... 

Every copy of a chromosome has one short arm (p arm), a centromere and  one long arm (q arm). This means every pair of chromosomes have two short arms (p arm) and two long arms(q arm).

So, you see the dark shade of purple labeled 'P'? This is what scientist and everyone else call's the 'P arm' OR 'the short arm'. The lighter shade of purpler labeled 'q'  is either called the 'q arm' OR 'the long arm'. The yellow circle in the middle is called a 'centromere' which acts like the body part of the chromosomes holding the two arms (p arm and q arm) together. The centromere is the centre part of the chromosome but this doesn't mean it is always the centre of the chromosome when speaking about the length of it. Then there is an outline, outlining the entire chromosome which is called a 'telomere' and this keeps the entire chromosome together. 

The genes inside the chromosome are identified by using a special type of dye that defines their differences. Each part of the chromosome will be affected differently when the dye comes into contact with them. By this happening it identifies certain 'G-bands' within the chromosome which are labeled by numbers. The smallest number starting from the centromere to the largest number ending at the end of the arm furthest from the centromere. 

Something like this:

Chromo 18.org

I'm pretty sure I haven't covered all of the facts about chromosomes but I think it's most of the things that you need to know about Mango's chromosome anomaly.

Fact: In saying all that I have said. I would like to add one last thing to this short post. I found particularly interesting even though it meant nothing. Each chromosome is a certain size. The largest of the chromosome being chromosome no.1 to the smallest chromosome being chromosome no.22. 

Thanks,
xx


NOTE: The information on this blog is just something I have learnt in my time as a mother of a child with a genetic disorder. I am not a qualified doctor or therapist, etc and do not claim that I have the knowledge to be. The information is merely for my family members, close friends and other parents with similar issues looking for other families and their experiences.

Hello you! It feels like its been ages. 

Mango recently got a new chair. It looks like someone cut a piece of their corner wall out and added cushions around it, to make it look 'professional'. It sits on the floor, a wedge between his legs to keep his legs straight and to keep him from thrusting/ arching and strap that hold up his upper half. i feel bad putting him in because it looks like I'd tied him so he cant move. Which in reality I actually have done just that, but not for the reason I feel but for the reason to hold him up so he can play with toys. Because seriously, lets face it. Hypotonia is the devil. I think it is anyways. Mango has also got his own special table that wraps around him just so neatly. 

On a different note. If anyone reads this (which I dont think anybody reads this except me). Mango has finally seen a neurologist for his so called 'seizures/infantile spasms'. At first we decided to leave it and just wait it out since they haven't been occurring very regularly.  Then I get a phone call from our neurologist and she said that she spoke to her colleagues and they all think its seizures and to start him on medication. We need to go through blood work first to make sure its all ok. She prescribed us Epilim. Anybody? Anybody ever use this before? Experiences please? Im not asking. I'm begging. 

I have met many parents with children's who have been diagnosed with seizures but  the medication they use are much stronger like steroids and stuff. Oh My GOD. Don't get my started on the stories they have told me about how all the strong stuff effected their kids so bad. It was scary. 

All I see online are medical websites. I don't want a medical website. I want parents experiences because after all. Parents know best because they see EVERYTHING. And doctors? I don't know. I trust them to a certain extent but come on now, most doctors go off by just guessing their way through until something works. They tell you all tiny weeny side effects that are 'oh not that bad' and they make the reasons to use the medication all fluffy and beautiful. 

So please, anyone out there. Parents, people, someone.... anyone?

To the me of tomorrow - Mango's 1st

Dear Mama Bear,

Your probably reading this because you know you needed to hear it today. Today, because today is Mango's first birthday. Somehow its a bitter sweet feeling. I understand the pain and joy you ar feeling right now. Well, because I'm you, writing this for today. To let you know that I understand how hard it is to be happy and yet be so sad at the same time. Mango is finally 1! We waited for a long time for this day to come and at the same time we wished this day would never come because of the reality check it would bring to us. I'm here to tell you that it's ok. I'm here to tell you the things we want to hear from our loved ones but they don't really understand our situation enough to tell us these things. 

I can't promise you that it won't hurt. I can't promise you won't cry and I can't promise that the future holds many different days than today. All I can tell you that what ever your feeling is ok. I understand that when you look at Mango would will see a child that has fought for a whole year. He had to fight, a fight that no person should ever have to fight and he had to fight it on his own. I understand that when you look at him to see a 2 to 3 month old child rather than a one year old who should be sitting atleast by now. I understand that it will hurt you to celebrate his one year birthday but wonder why your even celebrating because he kind of isn't really one at all. I can tell you why. We are celebrating not his birthday but his life of 1 year. We are celebrating that he is with us today and remember that not many bubs make it through pregnancy to be with family. We are celebrating his achievements in life and all the things he has accomplished including all the things our doctors told us he would never achieve. We are celebrating that fact that he knows Mama and Daddy. We are celebrating all the support we have had during this full year of therapy appointments, genetics and paediatrician appointments. We are celebrating your sons heart, the fact that it's beating strong refusing to stop. Most of all we are celebrating the fact that you are a family. A family that a bond has grown stronger than most families out there. Today we remember that we are blessed to have such a wonderful child who have changed us as people for the better. A child who has changed the way we see things, say things and do things. We are better people and without him, we would never know what it's like to be the better person we are today. 

You are a mother. A compassionate, caring and loving mother. You have given everything to this day and for that you should be proud. I know its hard and I'm not telling you that you shouldn't be sad. Your allowed to be sad. Noone should tell you that you shouldn't be sad. If you want to cry and laugh at the same time, then go for it. This is not only Mango's day too, this day if celebrating you too. The way he looks at your for reassurance before he does something because he knows you would never let anything happen to him. You are his whole world. You don't remember all the time but I'm here to remind you. 

From Mama Bear

Year 10 class

I was in my year 10 art class sitting down when there was a knock on our classroom door. A lady popped her head in, smiled at my art teacher and walked in with a young special needs girl holding her hand. All my years of being alive and I had JUST realised that special needs children can go to 'normal' school and that they have a lady following them around class to help them with work. I still don't know these people who help are called. Anyone?

Except all I remember that it was at that particular moment that I realised that I wanted a future with special needs. Whether it be working with the elderly, or playing with children or something along the lines of that. I knew that I wanted my future to be a part of something unique and special. I was always one of those kids that would be walking in a shopping centre and see a child in a wheelchair and STARE like I had never seen someone in a wheelchair before. But heres the thing, I know that my staring probably looked so rude as if I wasn't brought up with manners and I understand that if I was in that parents position I would want to slap me on the face. In my head though, it was a whole different story. In my head (I remember this very clearly so some reason I don't know why) I was thinking that if I stared at this kid with a worried face as my expression, I would kind of show that person that I was caring and that the parents would understand I actually wanted to be friends with this kid and help this kid and not the other way around. I don't know why that made sense to me at the time. Sounds twisted doesn't it? I know. I have no explanation for the way my brain works. It scares me sometimes.

However, I never pursued that goal and only god knew why. Now years after, I understand that my life was written out for me and even though at the time all I could see was my goal, The Lord had a much higher and more rewarding goal for me in my future. It was probably from when I was a child and I used to stare at special needs kids that it was just the beginning of my journey to become a the mother I am today of a child with a disability. I sit back and I realised yet again how great Allah is and how he prepared me for such a rewarding role in life.  

Dear Shopper

Someone shared this with me... It's so sad but so true. Once upon a time I was the shopped (sad to say) but now I'm in different shoes too. 

It is written by a mother who has an autistic son. April is the month of Autism Awareness. Please support them by clicking on the link below. Bringing 'typical' children together with children who have special needs teaches our children to be aware. Involve them in helping. Teach them. Don't be afraid of the unknown. 

http://www.autismawareness.com.au/get_involved

It is these lessons that will define who our children will be in life. To have an open mind and most probably have more knowledge than many other people will. It's lessons of kindness, love, affection and so much more by getting them involved in something so simple. We just have to reach out towards it.

Dear Shopper,
Yes, I know. I’m well aware that my child is screaming. Not just a regular scream, but an ear-piercing, sanity-shattering screech. Even if I wasn’t seeing and hearing it, I would know by the expression on your face.
Clearly, you have raised your children better than me.
That is what you were wanting to say, right? There certainly can’t be any other purpose to you stopping in your tracks to stare or elbow your companion or better yet — give knowing looks to other shoppers passing by.
I have no doubt that you have wonderful, well-behaved children. Grown, tax-paying, law-abiding citizens who would never have dreamed of screaming like this in public when they were children. Judging by your expression and utter exasperation, you’ve never hesitated to let them know who was boss.
And I know that you did your best with your children, that you loved them, and want all children to have a solid upbringing in which to start their lives. You are, in all probability, a good person. You probably don’t mean any harm.
This is what complicates what I want to say to you. Because, despite my anger towards you, I happen to have been raised well too. I don’t want to be ugly, even though right now I feel like it.
Because I know some of that anger is misdirected. It is misdirected because I, too, have stood in judgment of someone like me. I, along with almost everyone, have stood in public and watched a scene like this one play out and thought to myself, “Clearly she has no control over her children. When I have children, mine will never behave like that.” I, like most people, wasn’t quite as obvious about it as you. I didn’t stare or make comments that could be heard. But I was every bit as decided. So, some of my anger is really directed toward Human Nature, who refuses to be put in its place.
The nice thing about human nature, however, is that it can be overridden. And all it takes is but a single experience, a single human interaction, to the contrary of your own strongly held convictions. Then presto whammo — you are a new and hopefully improved person.
Let me introduce you to my child. Like you, I marveled at the miracle of life upon becoming his mother. Like you, I rocked, burped, and inhaled his sweet baby scent and thanked God over and over for the gift of him. Like you, I had certain dreams for my child. There your path and my path diverged somewhat.
My precious child is autistic. Yes, I’ve seen Rain Man, and, no, my son is not likely going to be a great card counter. The truth about autism is that it encompasses a wide spectrum of abilities. And, like you and me, every autistic child who has it is different from the next. Yet they do often share some similar traits – sensory overload and meltdowns are one of them.
Every person on the planet has what I think of as an internal alarm system. Most of us have ours in good working order. But some people with autism have what I like to call a hair-trigger alarm system. Theirs can go off with what seems to average folks like little to no provocation. There IS always provocation. Non-autistic people simply aren’t as sensitive to seeing and hearing the triggers, and that’s when the alarm goes off. And when it does, it’s loud. Everyone in the vicinity wants nothing more than to have it turned off, including the people who love them. When you see me “placating” my child and “giving in” to his tantrum, I’m really just desperately looking around for the alarm key or trying to remember the right code to turn off that blaring alarm. It isn’t his fault. And, no matter how upsetting it is for you, let me assure you it is that much more upsetting for him.
I’m sorry that you haven’t had quite as pleasant of a shopping trip as you had anticipated. It hasn’t been so pleasant for me either. Problem is — I have to feed my family, pick up prescriptions, etc. just like you do. And, unfortunately, no one arrived at my house today to watch my child so that his autistic behavior wouldn’t upset anyone in public. I have to leave the house and so does my child. Because I have to teach him about the world. I have to let him practice controlling his alarm system. So that he, too, can possibly be a productive citizen making come true all those dreams I had for him when he was so small.
With so many advances in early detection and therapy, many of us will be able to see most of those dreams come true for our unique children. And for some of us, our dreams will have to change for our children. We may need to re-define happiness and success. For life is like that. We constantly have to reevaluate our expectations of ourselves, others –and, sometimes, even the grocery store.
I’m hoping that your single human interaction with me has given you an opportunity to be a better person. For, with 1 in 91 children being diagnosed with autism now, you are going to have a lot more opportunities to make a positive impact in the life of someone like me. All it would take would be a smile, a pat on the back, or a “Bless your heart, honey, hang in there” to refill a stressed out parent’s reserve of patience and calm. You could be the bright spot in our day. And, then, if you want, you are welcome to ask all the questions you want. Your curiosity doesn’t offend me in the least. Most of us aren’t the least bit upset to talk about our kids – any more than you are. If anything, it is an opportunity to educate and dispel myths.
And, maybe, just maybe, you will be standing there when the alarm gets turned off. Maybe you will get to see what every mother wants the world to see – the wonderful personality of her child, in our case hidden behind a mask of fear, anger and frustration.
Who knows? Maybe I’ll get to see the one hidden behind yours. ♥

By Flappiness Is